You can only get smarter by playing a smarter opponent..

Alex also says,

Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness... give me truth.

Alex says:

I read somewhere... how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong... but to feel strong.

believe in yourself

I want..

I WANT…
freedom…to sing with abandon and passion…to dance like no one is watching…to paint…to draw…to write…to let go of guilt…to forgive myself and to forgive others…to greet the world with smiles each day….to make a difference…to inspire others…to find positive in every moment…to climb mountains…to read millions of books…to write a book…to find inner peace…to become okay with silence…to travel the world…to hold orphans in my lap and show them a love they have never known…to capture the beauty of the world in pictures…to become a more organized and tidy person…to push past my fears of rejection and criticism…to find my slambook that is somewhere within my stuff…to plant a garden…to learn to cook…to become a travel guide…to read all there is…to let go of anger…to become closer to God…to stop and smell the roses (or whatever kind of flowers happen to be there)…to foster my friendships…to learn to enjoy exercise…to be okay without perfectionism…to live…to laugh…to love…to want..I want!

Complicated!

"Complicated"

(The first single by Avril Lavigne)

Uh huh, life's like this
Uh huh, uh huh, that's the way it is
Cause life's like this
Uh huh, uh huh that's the way it is

Chill out whatcha yelling' for?
Laid back it's all been done before
And if you could only let it be
you will see
I like you the way you are
When we're drivin' in your car
and you're talking to me one on one but you've become
Somebody else round everyone else
You're watching your back like you can't relax........
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Wonder what Avril had in mind, while she was coming out with this – sounds weird though!

Draw the line..

Boundaries are saviors.

I know this because I didn’t have any.

See, that’s what happens when you are there 24*7: you open yourself to anyone, anytime, anyplace.

And if you don’t set boundaries for yourself, people will set them for you.

Now, in my 9512 days of existence, I’ve experienced my share of boundary violations:

I’ve had time wasters.
I’ve had bloodsuckers.
I’ve had prank phone calls at 2 AM.
I’ve had people start fights with me.
I’ve had hatemails.
I’ve had dozens of salespeople try to suck me into their pyramid schemes.

All of this from wearing a not-me-too-identity - (I mean, wouldn’t that get to YOU after a while?)

THE POINT IS: when it comes to approachability, setting boundaries is a MUST.

Is it possible to be TOO approachable.

Especially when you're devoting your time to any pursuits.
Especially when your precious time, physical space and personal safety are at stake.

AND THAT'S THE CHALLENGE: figuring out where you draw the line.

In her book, Anne Katherine defines a boundary as “a limit that promotes integrity.”

I think that’s a great definition.

Because ultimately, that’s what boundaries are about: staying true to yourself.

Devoting your time, attention, energy and focus to pursuits that match your interests.

So, straight from the mouth of a (formally) boundary-deficient person, here are a few things I’ve learned about boundaries over the years.

Boundaries REINFORCE integrity.
You elicit more respect because people respond to policies.

Boundaries DEFINE who you are (and who you aren’t).
Which helps you become the world’s expert on yourself.

Boundaries FREE you to be who you are.
There’s nothing more liberating than developing the strength to say no.

Boundaries IDENTIFY your responsibilities.
Because you’re not just saying no to others, you’re saying YES to yourself.

Boundaries TEACH people how to treat you.
This assures that boundary violations won’t occur again.

Boundaries DEVELOP your discipline and maturity.
People will admire your stick-to-itiveness, commitment and consistency.

Boundaries HELP you avoid manipulative people and situations.
As it was once said in Karate Kid II, “The best way to block a punch – no be there.”

AND HERE’S THE BEST PART: boundaries are reciprocal.

This goes back to the etymology of the word approachability, which derives from the Latin apropiare, meaning, “To come nearer to.”

So, in your relationships (with friends, family members, colleagues and customers) here’s how it plays out:

1. When you know your boundaries, you know who you are.
2. When you know who you are, you feel more confident.
3. When you feel more confident, you aren’t threatened by other people’s differences.
4. When you aren’t threatened by other people’s differences, they’re not threatened by yours.
5. When people aren’t threatened by each other, they accept each other.
6. When people accept each other, the rules change.

Boundaries. Are. Saviors.

Got it?

Cool.
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These days, I'm spending lots of time along the lines of C - and this is a post with that reference. I'm sure this would be liked - I did!

PS: I am not a huge follower of what I write, but I feel this is "politically correct"! :)